Some texts giving further explanations of maxims cited here:
127. Grace in Everything
’Tis the life of talents, the breath of speech, the soul of action, and
the ornament of ornament. Perfections are the adornment of our nature,
but this is the adornment of perfection itself. It shows itself even in
the thoughts. ’Tis most a gift of nature and owes least to education; it
even triumphs over training. It is more than ease, approaches the free
and easy, gets over embarrassment, and adds the finishing touch to
perfection. Without it beauty is lifeless, graciousness ungraceful: it
surpasses valour, discretion, prudence, even majesty it-self. ’Tis a
short way to dispatch and an easy escape from embarrassment.
253. Do not explain too much.
Most men do not esteem what they understand, and venerate what they do
not see. To be valued things should cost dear: what is not understood
becomes overrated. You have to appear wiser and more prudent than
he requires with whom you deal, if you desire to give him a high opinion
of you: yet in this there should be moderation and no excess. And though
with sensible people common sense holds its own, with most men a little
elaboration is necessary. Give them no time for blame: occupy them with
understanding your drift. Many praise a thing without being able to
tell why, if asked. The reason is that they venerate the unknown as a
mystery, and praise it because they hear it praised.
294. Be moderate in your views.
Every one holds views according to his interest, and imagines he has
abundant grounds for them. For with most men judgment has to give way to
inclination. It may occur that two may meet with exactly opposite views
and yet each thinks to have reason on his side, yet reason is always
true to itself and never has two faces. In such a difficulty a prudent
man will go to work with care, for his decision of his opponent's view
may cast doubt on his own. Place yourself in such a case in the other
man's place and then investigate the reasons for his opinion. You will
not then condemn him or justify yourself in such a confusing way.